Male desire is a familiar story. We scarcely bat an eyelash at its power or insistence. But women’s desires the way they can morph, grow, or even disappear -elicit fascination, doubt, and panic.
Every woman has desires of her own which she depicts in a different perspective at every stage of her life, Women aren’t complex beings as thought to be, we are just normal, sensitive, emotional beings with elevated and multifaceted hormonal phase, for example when we are in the elevated mode of transition one will face our drama queen side. Not every woman out there seeks pleasure in the materialistic and power play of the world. A woman tries to balance herself since young due to the male dominated society and is always taught to accept and move on despite her inner perceptions, she is forced onto the societal norms. I hear frequent variations on a common story. Somewhere in the mix of parenting, partnering, and navigating the demands of professional life, women’s desire has dimmed to the barest flicker. In place of lust, they acted out of obligation, generosity or simply to keep the peace.
As one size doesn’t fit all, every woman has a mixed of emotional desires of tornado inside her, Hope every lady out there, reading this would relate to me as well. We want to be treated as we treat you and when we don’t get that in return, we are just so broken from inside and thanks to our hormonal play that we reflect out the behavioral change in terms of silence, cry, fights and what not, yet get tagged for our behavior and no one in this entire world wants to understand, why do we react and what’s wrong with us. Let’s be frank we want to be treated fairly and with care, since we aren’t fragile nor our egos! but our hormonal shifts do add icing on the cake, making us worse in every age of our lives.
Still, we have learnt never to give up hope and faith, no matter whatsoever we face inside out of our situations and relationships, Life goes on. Here, I like to share a piece of advice. Hey!” I’m a Lady and Handle me with care, once broken I go through a volcano of emotional trauma, accept me with all my flaws and scars including my mental baggage. If you’re ready only than one can enter into our comfort zone and as the saying goes, don’t judge a book by its cover, holds good with every lady you meet too.
Every time we are judged by the physical appearances, only a few have the strength to face our true self. But the individual who outcomes it and enters our comfort zone, we show the other side of us, just the elevated and the craziest side of our love, desires, and fantasies. We want to be treated with utmost care and loved with emotions, respected for whom we are and accepted as we are. We can handle ourselves better, so we don’t want to lean towards just a support to hold on, but a person to trust in and shared upon every expression of our life. We are molded into what we are not only by our family we belong to but the environment surrounding us plays an important role too.
Women lead the thrones of fantasies; we all do have the desires, lust, and play wilder too. Where most of the women spend their lives with no sense of what they really want on bed, this could again lead a misunderstanding between the couples, communicate effectively so that your relationship isn’t built through pleasure gaps. At the same time low desire isn’t a symptom, it’s just a healthy response to lack luster sex because of perfunctory routines, clumsy partners, incomplete education, boredom, and chafe of over familiarity. In short, it’s the quality of sex they were having that left them underwhelmed. In a study, women put it across,” If it’s not about your pleasure, it makes sense you wouldn’t want it.”
For both men and women, dwindling desires was an affront to identity. It exposed the limits of what they had expected of themselves, namely that they should settle down with one man and be emotionally and physically content from there on out. Their experiences mirror what research have uncovered about the so-called orgasm gap, which holds that men are disproportionately gratified by sex.
Women aren’t looking for a magic pill, whereas, men have a stocked cabinet of virility boosting compounds, while women have paltry options. But some women opined that it would be nice to ignite desire with a pill, few saw the benefit of boosting appetite if the circumstances surrounding sex remained unchanged. While desire was frequently tinted by a sense of mystery, its retreat was rarely presented in a black box. Almost across the world, women spoke of their sexuality in contextual terms; it changed with time with different partners and different states of self-knowledge. Its assumed men want to have sex, but physically cannot, and so feat of hydraulics allows them to consummate the act. But for women, the problem is more, they might be physically capable, but emotionally disinclined. The study shows an impression that sexual healing had little to do with the tricks or techniques, and almost everything to do with the mind, with sensing an internal flicker of, I want that, and feeling empowered of the act accordingly.
All women want to be loved, desired, to be respected, trusted, and build companionship with the same willingness in return from the man of her desires.
